Breaking Up Is Hard To Do...

No one likes to break up, at least no one I know. However, if you are dating or in a relationship, chances are you will break up everytime you are in a relationship, except of course for the person you eventually marry. And that may also end in divorce in these times.

Anywho, there are ways to go about breaking up which will be easier to handle on both sides.

1. Seek advice. If you are in doubt about whether to break up or not, talk it over with a trusted individual. Other people who are not involved are more able to see things that you may not be able to. They are able to analyze things without all the emotional involvement you have.

2. Act on your decision. Should you decide to break up, follow up with action. Do not hesitate. This may be classified as leading the other person on and this is never a good thing. Also, don't swayed by promises of change and so on. Stick with your decision once you have made it.

3. Think about the other person's feelings. You once cared a great deal for this person. Do not bring up negative things that have happened in the past. That is exactly where they are, in the past. There is no need to bring them up to the present again. Instead, focus on the good times that you had together. The other person needs to know that despite you breaking up, he or she is still a great person.

4. Let it be known to the other person that you were not perfect also. No one is. Figure out what went wrong and how you had contributed to things ending up the way they did.

5. Be honest with the person. Tell them the real reason or reasons that you are breaking up for. That person deserves at least to know why you are ending things. Even though it may hurt that person hearing it, it will only serve to make him or her a better person in the next relationship, (unless they choose not to learn and grow from their experiences).

6. Pick a good time and place to do the break up. Choose a place where you are able to talk and not feel self conscious.

7. Let some time pass before you decide to see each other again. Give yourself some time to heal. Be careful of how you act with this person so as to not give the other person false hope that you may get back together. Keep it simple.

How To Have A Successful Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationships are hard work! First of all, relationships themselves are hard work! Add some long distance to that and you've got your work set out for you. Of course, like all relationships, if you do your work to keep the relationship healthy, then it should be good. But the other person should also be doing his or her share of the work as well. It's a two way street.

I think it boils down to one necessity, and I will write this in bold letters: COMMUNICATION! There is no relationship without communication, especially when it comes to LD's. Because you are both not physically together most of the time, this is all that you have to keep things going.

We hear it all over and all the time that long distance relationships never work out. Well, that is not true. I don't know about this personally unfortunately. I have had a couple LD's, I am in one right now as a matter of fact, but like I said, without communication, you have nothing. Those couples who do make it knew what worked and they worked hard at keeping the other person happy.

Other things that determine whether LD's will work out is age, distance apart and for how long you will be apart. Two fifteen year olds will more than likely not be able to carry on a long distance for very long because they are too young. Now two adults may be able to make it work even though there are thousands of miles between them.

All in all, if two people are committed to each other and to making things work no matter how hard it will be and that they will have very good communication in letting each other know what is going on with them and what they need, they have a very good chance of ending up together in the end.

Why Do Men Cheat?

Well, that is the million dollar question isn't it? Women all across the globe want the answer to that question. I know I used to wonder about this for so long and I still do question myself from time to time. However, I have come to realize that like women, they too have their reasons.

Here is a list of reasons I have come to find that shows us why some men cheat:

1. Revenge. Some men may think their partners are cheating, whether they are or aren't. Because of this, they go out and do the same.

2. Lack of physical attraction. We all know that each man has a certain "thing" that they admire the most on women. A man may be attracted by a woman's ass for instance and it may so happen that his partner doesn't have. So, he comes across a woman who does have and there you go. Of course, this doesn't mean he was intentionally looking to cheat. Some men do though.

3. She's not around. She may be too busy with her life, job, family, so on. Regardless, when a woman is not present, a man is more likely to stray.

4. The grass is always greener on the other side. That is human nature. We think the grass is greener on the other side, yet when we get there, it may not seem that way then. Sometimes it is, but sometimes it isn't and we are disappointed.

5. To boost the ego. Plain and simple. To feel good about himself. He may be feeling down for whatever reason and just knowing that another woman wants him will shoot his self-esteem way up!

These are the most common reasons, but there are more. We all come up with reasons to justify our actions no matter what.