Frequent Mistakes People Make in Relationships
I found this article about the most frequent mistakes people make in relationships today. So many of us do not realize that the actions we take in our lives affect others in negative ways. We tend to forget or acknowledge that in order for us to really communicate with someone, we must first listen. If you do not listen to the other party, are you really communicating? Think about it.
Anywho, here is the excerpt I took from the article which lists the most frequent mistakes people make in relationships:
"1. Taking the responsibility for other peoples’ feelings, attitudes or emotions.
2. Carrying old baggage from the past into a new relationship.
3. Not managing conflict in a positive way.
4. Stuffing feelings, fears, desires, frustrations and emotions.
5. Not sharing your needs or desires with your relationship partner.
6. Spending too much time either in the future or the past.
7. Inadequate self-disclosure.
8. Unwillingness to accept the other person for who he/she really is.
9. Reacting to behavior – rather than the person behind the behavior.
10. Invalidating the other person’s opinions, values, beliefs and/or attitudes.
11. Not managing your expectations or attachment to the other person’s outcomes.
12. Inability to forgive yourself and/or the other person.
13. Seeing the other person as having faults rather than a reflection of your own expectations or prejudices.
14. Trying to change your partner.
15. One or both of you have low self-esteem.
16. Emotional manipulation like blame, guilt or anger.
17. Not maintaining a romantic outlook regardless of your age.
18. Always thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the street.
19. Not understanding the needs of different personality styles.
20. When one or both people have an out of control ego.
"Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com/Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tim_Connor
Anywho, here is the excerpt I took from the article which lists the most frequent mistakes people make in relationships:
"1. Taking the responsibility for other peoples’ feelings, attitudes or emotions.
2. Carrying old baggage from the past into a new relationship.
3. Not managing conflict in a positive way.
4. Stuffing feelings, fears, desires, frustrations and emotions.
5. Not sharing your needs or desires with your relationship partner.
6. Spending too much time either in the future or the past.
7. Inadequate self-disclosure.
8. Unwillingness to accept the other person for who he/she really is.
9. Reacting to behavior – rather than the person behind the behavior.
10. Invalidating the other person’s opinions, values, beliefs and/or attitudes.
11. Not managing your expectations or attachment to the other person’s outcomes.
12. Inability to forgive yourself and/or the other person.
13. Seeing the other person as having faults rather than a reflection of your own expectations or prejudices.
14. Trying to change your partner.
15. One or both of you have low self-esteem.
16. Emotional manipulation like blame, guilt or anger.
17. Not maintaining a romantic outlook regardless of your age.
18. Always thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the street.
19. Not understanding the needs of different personality styles.
20. When one or both people have an out of control ego.
"Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com/Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tim_Connor
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